Having a vehicle to connect to a wider world have given me the privilege to condemn the bad acts that need to be condemned and for that I am truly grateful.
Negative pregnant traverse refers to a denial which implies its affirmative opposite by seeming to deny only a qualification of the allegation and not the allegation itself.
I’ve always had strong dislike for men who abuse women or domestic violence of any kind. I still find it hard to comprehend why people treat the people they are supposed to love in a less than manner.
In Nigeria, more women become victims of Domestic violence on daily basis because our society have a way of subjecting the women, creating unnecessary fears and capitalizing on their fragility.
I had a friend, let’s call her Chika. Our friendship was one of the longest I’ve ever had but I was always trying my best to make it work because she had some deep-rooted issues and I wanted to be there for her.
I’ve never known Chika as someone who was weak or afraid of retaliation. One day, I was called to mediate between her and her boyfriend.
They actually had an altercation which resulted in exchange of blows from the boyfriend that resulted in a concussion. She was rushed to the hospital by the boyfriend because he thought she will die.
When I arrived the hospital, I was confused so probed the guy on what actually happened,he said
Chy… your friend said I punched her in the head but that’s not true.
After he made that statement, I knew he was lying so I had to probe further. I asked him a simple question:
If you didn’t punch her in the head, where then did you punch her?
I quickly remembered the term: Negative pregnant traverse! His response really made me see through him and his pattern of lies.
I never punched her in the head but I mistakenly punched her in the leg.
The abusers always play this card whenever they are caught. They try to downplay aggression and trivialize pain.
This sadly, is the reality of many Nigerian women and at a point like this, I beat myself us for not studying law.
But nevertheless, I will suggest that our government should make a law, strong enough like what is obtainable in Lagos State that will lock these people up once they are caught.
Have you ever been a victim of Domestic violence? How did you handle it?
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